How many of you remember that? Minutes after starting a ride to anywhere, we were already impatient and wanting to be there. So much of our lives have been about just getting there, without any thought or appreciation of the journey. Who cares about the journey, after all? It’s all about the finish line!
I’ve been theremyself. Feeling impatientand frustrated, even depressed that things weren’t happening as fast as I thought they would. Wanting immediate results, success, and recognition and just not really being present during all the time I was working hard, training, moving forward, pushing to get to that gold at the end of the rainbow. But what if the rainbow is part of the journey? What if the journey is the gold? What if the gold is woven into the process, and if we don’t stay present during the journey, we miss the gold at the end?
Your journey is just as important as your goal. Let me state that again: your journey is just as important as your goal. I’d even go out on a limb here and suggest that it is maybe more so. It’s along the process of achieving everything we desire that we develop the skills we need to get there and then go beyond. And with every bump (otherwise known as failure or setback), you learn how to be better and to hone your abilities to do your best work. I personally know that, as entrepreneurs, it’s really easy to get fixated on the end result, the prize. The end result usually means some kind of financial reward or recognition, and who doesn’t want that? There’s this saying, “I’ll sleep when I’m dead,” which seems to honor and glorify the push, grind, and ceaseless—often caffeinated—drive to succeed. We use words like advance, attack, and get it as if we are winning some kind of battle.
I was there not so long ago when I’d finished my first children’s book. There came a point for me where I found myself pushing and grinding and doing all that I could. My expectations were sky high, yet I wasn’t enjoying the ride at all. It actually made me feel stressed and depressed. I was extremely proud of this book, and it even hit number one on Amazon the day of its launch. I worked my butt off in so many ways, but that still didn’t leave me feeling fulfilled. Normally you would think someone would be ecstatic about creating a successful number one book, and parts of me were, however something was missing. I realized I had not allowed myself to enjoy the process of creation. I was tired of pushing, striving, and putting so much pressure on myself. I had forgotten the entire reason I wanted to do it in the first place. I also realized that a number one book wasn’t enough to make me a happy person. After it was all said and done, I realized that I didn’t want to continue at this pace and ignore the journey ever again. And I don’t want you to either.
I’d like to propose a different approach. Remember that the journey is where you really get to connect with those you are working with and with whom you create powerful memories. If you are creating something, it’s time to appreciate the “view” as you move through each phase and honor yourself as you get one more thing done along the way. It is where you can connect to yourself and the Divine with your artistry and be able to dance in the moments of being creative. Allow the inspiration to flow and you will find you are far more original and productive.
I want to honor you on your journey as you work to achieve your goals. I’d like you to think of the journey as an integral part of strengthening your foundation and an opportunity to work smarter, not harder. The journey is also where you can learn the benefit of staying balanced so that you can make proactive choices instead of reactive choices. Always a good thing. Sometimes when we get too fixated on the end result, we miss so much along the way that we can’t even appreciate it when we get there.
Just remember to be easy on yourself. When you get stuck, just keep moving forward—even if it’s only a baby step, your momentum will pick up. Stay present, and you will eventually get there with a renewed sense of self-confidence and belief in yourself—not to mention an extremely strong foundation which will support you and propel you forward into the future. You’ve got this! I am right by your side, journeying with you.
G. Brian Benson is an award-winning and #1 best-selling self-improvement and children’s book author, actor, filmmaker, coach and TEDx speaker. As a 4x Ironman triathlete and cross-country bicyclist, Brian knows the value of hard work and never giving up on his dreams, a message he shares with audiences through each of his creative expressions. Brian has a brand-new book coming out winter of 2018 called Habits for Success – Inspired Ideas to Help You Soar.
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